The Teachers & The Preachers

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Even a year ago, the idea that you must teach a person about social issues was popular. I will be honest, it irritated me because of my own life circumstances because both teaching and preaching approaches in my eyes are equally good but I could see my approach was still been put down in a very cruel way so often. I think in the past year things have dramatically changed and I think in this aspect for the better. Looking around me and seeing people speaking their mind without fear of how they think they have to speak to people who are prejudiced and ignorant on these issues has been really cool to see.

People are different and they approach things in different ways based often on their personalities, their lives and their pasts and I have never felt that we respect that enough. It certainly happens both sides. People on the preaching side often make people on the teaching side feel like they are doing something wrong. People on the teaching side often make people on the preaching side feel like they are doing something wrong.

But for a long time I will say that the voices on the teaching side were amplified more and I felt it and I’m sure many others on the preaching side felt it out there too. We were made out to be troublemakers, hostile, immature, didn’t understand the world, were not nice people, were unintelligent, wanted to be right, wanted to control everyone, aggressive, rude, offensive and the list goes on. And that is a lot to put on people simply because they don’t approach things the same way you do. Because you aren’t a bad person and in your own way you are trying to do things from a good place, after a while if you are hearing the same thing all the time it can get to your head and have detrimental consequences.

When I hear people saying you should teach people instead of preach, I have to ask where is that rule written down? It’s simply an opinion which everyone is entitled to but it is often put out there as a statement of fact. I’m not a teacher, I never signed up for that profession so I don’t really see it as my job to teach anybody anything. It’s a choice you make either way and you go with the best choice for you, not anyone else but you can also be respectful of the choice someone else makes because these people on either side are not prejudiced or ignorant or both, they are simply people with different approaches who are all trying to come from a good place in what they are doing.

But without a doubt people on both sides can show their bad side when they gaslight another person who doesn’t approach it the same way as them. I have actually seen the word gaslighting been mocked and while as always people are entitled to their opinions, that opinion always makes me want to vomit because gaslighting has extremely dangerous effects on peoples’ mental health and I know that from experience so to see the idea that people are gaslit been mocked and dismissed is really ugly and while I tend to notice that it happens more to people on the preaching side, it happens to people on the teaching side too. It is an ugly but unfortunately very powerful way of making a person who doesn’t act the way you think they should feel so low and unsure of themselves and everything they do and are that they close themselves off, they become what you want them to be and can’t handle life. And believe me, no one normal wants to go that far to win.

I don’t think people on the teaching side are cowards or anything negative to be honest. But I equally don’t think I am or anyone like me is and I like when people have that same respect for me and others that I have for them but sadly it doesn’t always work out that way and that’s just the way it is. It’s on their conscience, not on mine so I don’t have to worry about it. I have opinions and I have them passionately and honestly and lots of people do and none of us need to feel guilty about that. That’s us. People on the teaching side don’t need to feel guilty about being them either. In my opinion, it is people on either side who try to say people are unkind or not brave because their approach is different from theirs who are the problem.

The way I and many people are is that we have our opinions. Not for attention. Because we have voices, we all do, and we are putting those opinions across to do something good: to stand up for equality of people in our way. To make people feel less alone. And teachers do their things for good too, they are trying to understand every side. There is good in both sides and you won’t see this preacher debating with any teacher unless they pick a debate with me. We are only human, both teachers and preachers, and when confronted with difficult issues we react in different ways and if we can’t respect that we do then we as individuals, not either group we’re in, is problematic as hell.

I would love to see teachers and preachers coming together more often because both have skills the other doesn’t have and together they could make some amazing change which the world really needs right now and has always really needed. But both sides need to be more kinder to each other in order for that to happen.

5 Songs To Celebrate Bi Awareness Week!

Bi Awareness takes place each year between September 16th and September 23rd. To celebrate this amazing week here are five amazing artists who are bi. Happy Bi Awareness Week to all the wonderful bi people out there. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Ma Rainey – Runaway Blues

Halsey – Bad At Love

Frenchie Davis – Home

Ezra Furman – Every Feeling

Billie Joe Armstrong – Wake Me Up When September Ends

5 Videos To Watch This Week On YouTube!

Hi everyone! ๐Ÿ™‚

It is that time of the week again. Here is my five suggestions to watch on YouTube this week:

Social Issues

Lately I am getting into watching TikTok compilations and I’m especially drawn to compilations which deal with social issues and showing the everyday prejudice/ignorance that goes on in society in both a thought-provoking and entertaining way. This amazing compilation shows the shit trans people have to put up with. A brilliant compilation.

YouTuber Anthony Padilla does a series where he spends the day with people from many different walks of life and backgrounds. In this episode, he is talking with asexual people. Really great episode with lots of personal stories and information from a really great series.

Music

Here is a song we all probably need a lot right now and in general to be fair. An absolutely stunning performance of What The World Needs Now by the legand Dionne Warwick from 1966.

I have been a huge fan of Alanis Morissette for years and this is a classic music video by her. Love the song, love the video, I present to you all Ironic by Alanis Morissette.

Supernatural

On this episode of Buzzfeed Unsolved Supernatural, Ryan and Shane talk about the Lizzie Borden murders when they visit the house where the murders took place to see if there is any ghosts there. Really interesting but watch it in the daytime! ๐Ÿ™‚

5 Videos To Watch This Week On YouTube!

Hi everyone! ๐Ÿ™‚

Hope you are all well. Here is my five video suggestions for this week:

 

Social Issues

In this very interesting interview with Emma Thompson on BBC Newsnight, she speaks about disgraced film director Harvey Weinstein and sexual abuse and harassment of women in the industry as well as the discrimination women face in the industry by men in more powerful positions.

 

 

Music

Here is a classic music video, Nirvana’s Smells Like Teen Spirit. A great headbanging tune with an equally fabulously headbanging music video.

 

This is a song I really love by Tracy Chapman and the music video for Give Me One Reason is brilliant. Very understated and perfect because of it.

 

Interior Design

Jesse Tyler Ferguson and Justin Mikita show us around their gorgeous home in this video. In the video we get to see their adorable dogs and a picture on the wall of when they were leaving their wedding and we also find out that the house was originally owned by Gwen Stefani.

 

Theatre

In this video, Mojo counts down the 20 roles traditionally played by men in the theatre which they feel are the hardest. Really interesting with lots of musicals both old classics and newer classics making the list.

5 YouTube Videos To Watch This Week!

Hey everyone! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

It is that time of week again. Here is my five recommendations to watch this week:

 

Social Issues

This video talks about many signs to watch out for in regards to gaslighting. It is something which I have faced in my life and I think it is important that people know the signs because it can be incredibly dangerous when one doesn’t know them as I know from experience myself. Keep yourself and your mind safe y’all. It can be fragile even though you think it never could be.

 

Life Advice

Here is a great video about things which can be helpful mainly in health situations. I think I’m going to miss using my butter to ease my pain. Main advice from here: go to the hospital!

 

Music

This is a great bop by Janelle Monรกe. I love the video of Make Me Feel too which is so fun, creative and a celebration of pansexuality and panromanticism.

 

Featuring queens from RuPaul’s Drag Race alongside the fabulous Lizzo, this smash Juice is great to dance to and is a fantastic, fun video too.

 

Photography

I found this a very interesting story about the famous photograph from 1932 called Lunch atop a Skyscraper. This short video speaks about the story behind the photograph. Many men from different backgrounds literally risked their lives while they were working as construction workers on the Rockefeller Center. Actually the photographers did too. While it is thought that the actual photograph was staged, there is still no denying that these men were up there regularly working in a very dangerous situation and were certainly heroes. The photographers even were to do it for the day! I would never! Very interesting video.

5 Videos To Watch This Week!

Yes y’all, it is that time of week again! Here are some video suggestions to watch this week. ๐Ÿ™‚

Social Issues

 

In this video, author James Baldwin is debating with William F. Buckley Jr. about race issues in America in 1965. A wonderful speech, clearly from the heart in the face of much adversity.

History

 

We are in the grips of Covid-19 at the moment. This video speaks of numerous pandemics and viruses which have happened throughout history, some of which lasted/are lasting a very long time.

Music

 

I love this song and here we see Aretha Franklin blast it out at Rockaplast in 1968. A great performance and great to get a chance to see such a classic performance.

 

In this performance at Build Series, Wicked star Kristin Chenoweth performs a cover of The Eagles’ Desperado with pronoun changes that make the performance very beautiful. A great cover.

True Crime

 

 

In this episode Ryan and Shane take a look at the mysterious death of a woman who died on her honeymoon. Very interesting watch.

5 Videos To Watch On YouTube This Week!

Week 3! Here is my five video suggestions this week! ๐Ÿ™‚

Dance

This is a very momentous moment in Irish Entertainment history. I present to you The Riverdance from Eurovision 1994:

 

Music

Hozier’s Take Me To Church music video is so emotive and highlights so much that needs to be highlighted. Not an easy watch but a brilliant and powerful video.

 

Social Issues

In this heartbreaking video, singer and former X Factor UK contestant Misha B talks about racism she experienced on the show and how it impacted on her mental health.

 

 

Relaxation

To help relax you and rid you of stress, here is a great ASMR artist Sarai from Peace and Saraity ASMR. In this video, Sarai helps you to relax with a variety of sounds. Each sound is given a certain amount of time and the descriptions of the sounds go up underneath so you can find any helpful sound easily which is very helpful. Very relaxing.

 

 

History

The following video from Weird History talks about the murder of Abraham Lincoln by John Wilkes Booth in 1865 and the aftermath of the murder. Very interesting and concise.

 

5 YouTube Videos To Watch This Week!

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Here in a new feature on this blog. I hope it will give you some interesting and varied viewing. I am by nature a very curious person, always have been since I was a child and I love to learn so my viewing can be diverse as hell, you have been warned! I hope at least some of the topics will be of interest and I plan to do this weekly so without further ado and rambling from me, here is five YouTube video recommendations to watch this week. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Music

 

This powerful song has been put along alongside some powerful images here. We see activists who are ordinary people as well as well-known activists for the rights of people of color like Martin Luther King and Nelson Mandela. Highlighted too are the rights of women and LGBTQAI+ people. A very emotional watch.

 

Social Issues

 

I am very socially-conscious but I hadn’t heard about Juneteenth until very recently. This video explains very well something I must look more into. Please do watch this video which talks about the day and it’s connections to slavery and the emancipation of so many people of color. It isn’t easy obviously to watch because the fact people were treated in that way is utterly disgusting but we need to acknowledge that terrible history and do better by our brothers, sisters and non-binary people of color.

 

TV

 

I am a huge fan of Aquaria and this is the opening episode of her On/Off series where she was out in the Philippines last year. A very interesting series detailing many of her work engagements from last year.

 

Relaxation

 

We all need a moment to relax, destress and get ourselves ok again. I have recently got into ASMR as a way to relax and I love videos by Mads Asmr. In this video, Maddie is scratching, raking and pinching and plucking away your stress.

 

Film

 

I am a huge Sister Act fan and this scene with Sister Mary Clarence/Deloris Van Cartier and Sister Alma never fails to make me laugh.

 

 

Privilege In Society

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Privilege in society has been become a huge, huge talking point recently in the media. I can’t say highly enough how extremely proud I am of all the protesters, activists and anyone who does like anything to bring all this to light even if that is simply retweeting a tweet. For too long, prejudice and gaslighting have been pushed under the carpet allowing a structural prejudice and power to run rampant through society.

White privilege. Cis privilege. Non-Queer privilege in general. Male privilege. Able-bodied privilege. Rich and middle-class privilege.

There is a lot of groups with privilege in society. I have only mentioned a few there and any form of lapping up your privilege is ugly. You can’t help having a privilege but only a prick would soak it up and be loving it and buy into it in some way.

So many people have lost their lives through this kind of thing. Or being violently beaten or raped. Numerous wrongs have been done on people from the tiniest inequality to the biggest inequality. You bring intersectionality into that mix and it makes it so much worse on a person and it’s bad enough as it is. So many stories are coming out. It is very sad, dreadfully sad and it doesn’t need to be like that. It never did.

Roll on justice. Freedom. Equality. It has been long overdue at this stage. Long, long, long overdue.

We are hearing a lot more people finally feeling like they can say the things that they were probably scared of getting backlash for before. And it is incredibly scary to do that in a world packed with controllers who have privilege. Believe me, I know. I hope now that this new sense of freedom to be passionate can help a lot of peoples’ mental healths because I know it was the reason I had mental health issues. I can’t stress enough how unbelievably inhumane prejudice and gaslighting is. I’m pan and omni but at the time I only knew I was pan. On one side, I felt like me and others were being treated unequally and on the other hand being told I had no right to defend myself. Trapped, that’s the word I think of, I felt trapped. That if I stood up for myself I’d be called not very compassionate, aggressive, a troublemaker, etc, etc … and the more I heard those words directly but mostly indirectly, I began to believe them partly. That’s how it does feel. If you are in a minority group, you are made feel like you’re not being nice if you don’t show compassion to someone who is being prejudiced or ignorant toward you. I wish the prejudiced/ignorant and the gaslighters no ill but seriously, how dare they? If they really believe they or someone else should be able to be prejudiced/ignorant and it’s ok for people to be gaslighted when they stand up for themselves and call it out, they have a cheek.

I don’t know what it’s like to face prejudice and gaslighting from the perspective of being black because I’m white. However, I have experienced what those two things feel like from the perspective of being pan and omni. It can be very difficult, hurtful, frustrating, angering and so many other feelings. I hope this movement that is going on right now brings about long-lasting changes for all of us and those in the future in groups that regularly face indirect or direct prejudice and gaslighting. I hope different groups who face these issues join together, help each other. I hope another person does not go through the utter fear and entrapment I felt the night I felt suicidal and had my hands around my throat or feels the mounting, gradual doubts that led to that night through something that can be made right ever again.

Can I also just say? Seeing those statues coming down? Brilliant.

I would like to end this post by paying tribute to some people:

George Floyd, R.I.P.

Tony McDade, R.I.P.

Oluwatoyin Salau, R.I.P.

Vicki Sims, R.I.P.

Dominique โ€œRemโ€™mieโ€ Fells, R.I.P.

Riah Milton, R.I.P

Layleen Polanco, R.I.P.

Rayshard Brooks, R.I.P.

and R.I.P. to all those people who have lost their lives due to this senselessness. My condolences are with all their loved ones at this very sad time.