Here is my latest Beauty On A Budget post. Hope you all like it. 🙂
Use the middle colour on the top line of the Cosmetic Connections Blusher/Powder palette on your face and neck. In the same palette use the first colour on the top line on your cheeks. Brush eyebrows and put Miss Beauty London’s 2 In 1 Clear Mascara/Brow Gel on your eyebrows and eyelashes. Put last colour on the top line of the Max & More’s 12 Color Eyeshadow Palette on your eyelids. Put last colour from the bottom line of the same palette under your eyes.
Put Miss Beauty London’s Teddy Bare on your lips. Line around your lips with the second colour on the bottom line of the Cosmetic Connections Blusher/Powder palette and place Miss Beauty London’s Lipstick Sealer on your lips.
There is a massive pressure in this world to not be offended, to shove down your authentic emotions in a way that is pleasing to others. It can be incredibly tempting to do what is expected because it is so much easier to do so. What people don’t always understand, or don’t want to depending on the person, is that as people we have different boundaries of what each of us will accept. Being offended is very subjective. I see this a lot in terms of issues like discrimination and ignorance. For some people the smaller things people say wrong don’t matter to them as long as the person meant no harm by them and I respect that. I understand people see things differently to me. However my boundaries of what I would accept as ok are different and all I ask is for that same respect in return. We don’t have to agree. The fact that people have different perspectives on things makes the world a much more interesting place. And there is definitely people with various different boundaries who are very respectful of another person’s boundaries but that is sadly not always the case.
Being open that you don’t find these things harmless or ok can open you up to being made out to be everything. It’s an exhausting list of things but basically you are made out to be aggressive and like you don’t understand the world as well as they do. Over time hearing that a lot can have terrible consequences on your mental health because you begin to believe those things. You begin to suppress those emotions publicly because you think they are bad emotions to have or you know that the response will be very manipulative and awkward. A lot of the time you believe that you are the problem for thinking the way you do but that is not the reality. If a person can’t respect that you think differently in this regard the problem is with them. No one tries to gaslight a person into thinking there is something wrong with them for having different emotions on things unless there is something in their life which makes them do so. For example they might be protecting someone in their life who does have those views and while that isn’t a bad thing in and of itself, it becomes dangerous when you are risking affecting another person’s mind in order to do so. Another reason someone might react like this is because they can’t stand opinionated people. If you are even partly opinionated you have probably experienced that very uncomfortable moment where you let out what you think and receive that look like you are a scary creature who is going to leap across the table and punch someone. It is very hard to know whether or not they truly believe you are going to punch someone or if they are trying to make you believe you would but either way that look that you are somewhat strange and aggressive is a bid to make you feel unsure of yourself so that you shut up because for whatever reason they don’t like opinionated people. Again that is the thing of them wanting you to be the same as them. Because they might not be as opinionated which is completely ok they want you not to be and actively but subtly try to make you not be. There is probably many reasons why people react this way but there is two but no matter what the reason or reasons it is never ok to try to control somebody and you are under no obligation to allow them to if you feel you don’t want to. It says nothing bad about you.
At this stage in my life I don’t really need the approval of these people. I am a slightly old hag, seen it all before, wore the t-shirt and I can spot them a mile off for the most part. It doesn’t mean that it doesn’t make things a lot harder in certain ways however and it does feel quite sad of course to know that a certain amount of people do this to people. When you don’t believe what is being said anymore it gets a lot easier but it’s very easy to be sucked into and believe. It’s life but yeah I do find it incredibly sad that a person can’t find certain amounts of prejudice and ignorance harmless without making someone who doesn’t agree with that out to be every negative thing they can find. It can make people nearly afraid to think sometimes in case they think something isn’t right and that it makes them ‘harsh’ or something. Believing it’s wrong yourself doesn’t mean you believe the other person should think it’s wrong so it doesn’t really affect them so to be trying to affect you doesn’t make sense to me. It can be difficult enough facing something you believe to be prejudice and ignorance and something which you feel is wrong without people telling you there is something wrong with you for feeling that.
Often people look to people for support and are told that. Support doesn’t mean you have to agree with someone but it also doesn’t mean telling that person they are the problem. They aren’t the problem. They just think differently to you. That can be really dangerous for a person if even their support network is telling them there is something wrong with them. You have to understand people have different boundaries and while it is grand to give your opinion on it, your advice needs to be in accordance with how that person sees things, not how you see them. Inserting your world views into a situation that isn’t your situation is never helpful. If the situation was the other way around sure I might tell them my opinion but my advice would never be the exact same advice I would give to someone who has my opinion on those kinds of things. I would want them to act in a way that was in accordance with their beliefs and which they felt comfortable with, not in accordance with my beliefs and what I feel comfortable with. I appreciate when someone has that same respect for me whether they agree with me or not.
But I am not always comfortable expressing how I feel because sometimes the response makes you feel like you are going from one person being negative about you to another person doing the same thing which in turn can make you feel like there is something wrong with you so it turns into a vicious fucked-up circle and you don’t really know where to turn. It might not always feel like there is people who will understand but there is. They just aren’t in that particular vicious fucked-up circle. There is certain times people give advice to sort the situation out and bring people closer together and while it’s a good intention it is ignoring the feelings of the person they are giving advice to. It’s often advice which is given without even acknowledging that the person would be burying their feelings by following the advice and is still suggesting that part of the problem is the person having that response to the situation. While there is a lot of good intentions in it it often only fixes the surface level problems. The people might come together but pretending or believing that their emotions disappeared over night or fighting against how they truly feel while the other person is probably still saying prejudice and ignorant things can affect somebody’s mental health in the long run.
You keep doing you. In this world sometimes it can be so difficult to know what way is appropriate to react. There is no appropriate way. If you feel hurt, offended, affected, angry or whatever that is completely valid and nobody has the right to make you feel negative about yourself for your feelings, emotions and boundaries. They are part of you and they are part of what makes you who you are. Never be ashamed of them. Embrace them.
Here is my latest Beauty On A Budget post. Hope you all like it. 🙂
Use the middle colour on the bottom line of the Cosmetic Connections Blusher/Powder palette on your face and neck. In the same palette use the second colour on the top line on your cheeks. Brush eyebrows and put the black colour from Max & More’s 12 Color Eyeshadow Palette on your eyebrows. Use Miss Beauty London’s Eye Crayon – Cocoa on your eyelids and under your eyes. Put Max & More’s Mascara With Argan Oil – black on your eyelashes.
Use the brown-gold shade, second the right on the bottom line, from Max & More’s 12 Color Eyeshadow Palette on your lips. Put a bit of Miss Beauty London’s High Shine Lip Gloss – Cappuccino on the outline of your lips and a bit in the middle of your top and bottom lip. For the 1st look, leave out the next step but for the second put on Miss Beauty London’s Lipstick Sealer over it. In this look the sealer makes it slightly different so it depends which look you like yourself for your lips.
Here is my latest Beauty On A Budget look. Hope you all like it. 🙂
Use Manhattan Fresher Skin Foundation – Cool Porcelain on your face and neck. Use last colour on the top line of the Cosmetic Connections Blusher/Powder palette on your cheeks. Brush eyebrows and put the black colour from Max & More’s 12 Color Eyeshadow Palette on your eyebrows and under your eyes. Use the purple colour from the same palette on your eyelids. Use Miss Beauty London’s Waterproof Mascara on your eyelids.
Use the same purple shade on your lips and put Miss Beauty London’s Lipstick Sealer over it. Place two purple Crafty Creations Self Adhesive Gems under both eyes to complete the look.
Here is another Beauty On A Budget look. Hope you all like it. 🙂
Use Manhattan Fresher Skin Foundation – Cool Porcelain on your face and neck. Use first colour on the top line of the Cosmetic Connections Blusher/Powder palette on your cheeks. Brush eyebrows and put the black colour from Max & More’s 12 Color Eyeshadow Palette on your eyebrows and under your eyes. Use the gold-brown colour from the same palette on your eyelids. Use Miss Beauty London’s Waterproof Mascara on your eyelids.
Use the same gold-brown shade on your lips and put Miss Beauty London’s Lipstick Sealer over it. It will work as both a sealer and a gloss which is pretty cool. 🙂
Here is my latest five video suggestions blog post. 🙂
In this BuzzFeed Unsolved Network video we hear the story behind The Stanley Hotel which was the hotel which inspired Stephen King’s The Shining. Really interesting. Lots of information in it.
Next we have Gottmik’s makeover of Kandy Muse from the Makeover Challenge week and we get to hear more about their time working together on the challenge. Fab and the two of them are just very fun together.
And here is part two from Kandy’s new channel where she recreates the makeover look she did on Gottmik for the Makeover Challenge. So great.
Next we have the second part of Curious World’s series Ladies of the Lakes. This story is about Margaret Hogg.
Finally here is some music from the legend Stevie Wonder. From 1972 here is Stevie performing his classic Superstition on the Soul Train Show. Amazing.