The Link Between Shyness and The Creative Arts!

When I was younger, I used to sing in school shows and the amount of times I heard that it was a surprise to people that I did perform on stage was countless. I don’t think people mean it with any malice. I think they just genuinely are surprised. I think it has been conditioned into peoples’ minds that shyness somehow means that a person will be cowering away in a corner half the time or something. And that doesn’t tend to be true. I think where the problem begins really is that people don’t understand what shyness is. Shyness is when a person is not confident in how they speak. That doesn’t necessarily mean that that lack of confidence in one area of their lives translates in any other particular area. It’s like a person who isn’t confident in their driving for example, it doesn’t mean they are going be not confident in another part of their lives such as playing a sport for example. And it can completely go the other way too. I have seen people who are the biggest talkers freeze when they go on a stage and that’s because they are confident in their speaking but not in performing.

I always find it weird when people say that they don’t think people can achieve in creative fields due to their shyness. Especially when you look at the history of so many successful people in the creative industries. And I’m not just pulling at straws. So many of the people who were successful shy creatives have been major names in show business and have been brave enough to be unique and do something new. Let’s look at a few and celebrate them for a few moments:

Music

David Bowie

“I’m not particularly a gregarious person. I had an unbearable shyness; it was much easier for me to keep on with the Ziggy thing, off stage as well as on. Who was David Bowie and who was Ziggy Stardust? It was motivated by shyness.”

Ella Fitzgerald

“I’m very shy, and I shy away from people. But the moment I hit the stage, it’s a different feeling. I get nerve from somewhere; maybe it’s because it’s something I love to do.”

Bob Dylan

“I remember Bob had soft, squidgy, little hands and was really shy – he hardly said two words.”

– Thin Lizzy’s Gary Moore speaking about Bob Dylan.

Freddie Mercury

“In real life nobody knew Freddie. He was shy, gentle and kind. He was never the one, he was on the stage.”

– Queen bandmate Roger Taylor speaking about Freddie Mercury.

Brian Molko

“I am actually a shy person, but there is a need for the flamboyant aspect of myself to express itself. The context for that is the live show. That side of my personality is satisfied by the act of performance, and I don’t need to behave extravagantly in my everyday life. Which I’m quite grateful for.”

Elvis Presley

“Here I was with somebody who I didn’t know was going to become famous. But I did know two things: I knew that he was not shy – I mean, Elvis was shy in the sense that he was introverted,but he was not shy to the camera – and he made the girls cry.”

– Alfred Wertheimer speaking about Elvis Presley.

And alas, that’s just six in music. If you Google it or read music biographies you’ll find so many more your eyes will burst with pride and awe if you are shy like me.

And now onto fashion which I shall list three people from but like music if you search you’ll find so many more!

Fashion

Yves Saint Laurent

“An ugly, ungainly, overgrown boy with thick glasses, and so horribly shy he couldn’t take his eyes off the floor”.

– Womens Wear Daily’s correspondent speaking about Yves Saint Laurent.

Gabrielle “Coco” Chanel

“I remember reading a book about Chanel in which a woman talks about seeing her singing in a little cabaret when she was maybe 18. Chanel was described as a shy, ambitious girl. This adjective of ‘shy’ surprised me. I think that is what is interesting about her, that she had such different dimensions. She couldn’t only be a strong and tough and stubborn person, because you don’t create with your confidence. You create with your doubts.”

– Audrey Tautou speaking about Coco Chanel

Gianni Versace

“I’m still the little, provincial shy boy who forced himself to be a public person.”

And three examples from the acting profession darlings!

Acting

Cillian Murphy

“The shy Corkman tells Stephen Milton about his venture to the small screen and how he’s recently started getting offers to play ‘dad’ roles”

– from independent.ie speaking about Cillian Murphy.

Ben Whishaw

“Dressed in a black polo neck and blue trousers — an ensemble that wouldn’t look out of place on Bond himself – Whishaw is sitting opposite me on a sofa somewhere in central London. Slender and stubbly, he appears initially nervous as he distractedly picks at a sandwich. But I soon realise that he is appealingly shy.”

– James Rampton speaking about Ben Whishaw.

Keira Knightley

“I am crap at parties. I tend to sit in the corner. I’ll sit in the corner and find one person to talk to or I’ll go on the dance floor and get quite drunk. But I am not good at that whole … (About been at the round of parties for Pride and Prejudice with her brother and parents.) We all stood in a corner, saying ‘Oh, this is weird!’.”

So I think all these people and countless others have proved that shyness won’t stop a person achieving what they want to achieve in life. And yet even today people say, “Great yet shy.” like the two can’t exist together or it’s strange that they do which I find a little strange really. I often wonder where the rule that to be publicly successful you had to be a great talker anyway came in. After all, what has it got to do with a person’s craft and talent? We may not be the bravest in social situations but we are in life.

23 Sexy Men Through The Years!

Have you ever flicked through magazines with pics from the past or seen a past star online and thought if I had have been out in your day I’d have had a crush?

Well that’s exactly what this blog post is all about, men who I have thought that about. I’ve narrowed the list down to 23 handsome men throughout the years and their in no particular order (Well I’ve put all the music guys together, guys in fashion together and the actors together but in terms of gorgeousness it’s no particular order.). From sexy rock gods to actors with sensual charm with two gorgeous popstars, a smouldering man who served in the U.S. Navy in Word War II, a beautiful poet, a very handsome fashion photographer and a strikingly handsome fashion designer, take a minute, sit back and enjoy a trip down memory lane sexy-style! 🙂

1.   Marc Bolan

Look at those eyes! Piercing, deep … swoon! 🙂 The frontman of T. Rex Marc Bolan looked every inch the star and a great looking man. He oozed sex appeal which is something most rockers do ooze and aren’t we all glad they do?! 🙂

2.   Kurt Cobain

Gorgeous blue eyes and flowing blonde locks! Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain was simply a beautiful man. I remember the first time I seen him was in a picture inside the locker of a girl at school and I thought he’s good-looking to myself but I didn’t know who he was. At that stage I only knew Smells Like Teen Spirit. Cobain came across as very gentle and kind on YouTube videos I seen of him and that’s attractive too!

3.   Roger Taylor

I am a huge Queen fan and I don’t actually think any of Queen was bad-looking men but in opinion something stood out about Roger Taylor. The drummer was just this incredibly gorgeous blonde guy! Cute with edge! 🙂

4.   Phil Lynott

Again I’m a massive fan of Thin Lizzy! They were our Irish rock heroes! And frontman Phil Lynott had this magnistism about him which was intoxicating. You could lost in his eyes, couldn’t you? 🙂 A beautiful, beautiful Irishman with immense musical talent!

5.   Jim Morrison

I think everyone fancied The Doors’ frontman Jim Morrison. He was so complex that you wonder how his wife Pamela Courson put up with him and why. Then you look at him and you understand why! Jim Morrison was kind of sex appeal personified in his leather trousers and with his overall sexiness. He had this sexual stare, he was so hot it was almost intimidating. I mean it was a kind of an exciting, wild, sexual danger that can be quite enticing.

6.   Billy Idol

English rock star Billy Idol was incredibly sexy. His Rolling Stone cover was super hot! The Dancing With Myself and White Wedding singer just looked gorgeous and hot in photographs. He was intensely sexy! 🙂

7.   Jeff Buckley

I remember an album was released of Jeff Buckley’s music and the ad was on the TV. I hadn’t heard of him at that time and the ad went quite quick so I thought he was a new artist and you know, he looks good-looking, a new crush. It was only after that I realised he had died many years before. He was very young like quite a few men on this list when he died. But when he was alive he was a very gorgeous man with a haunting voice and great musical talents.

8. Jimi Hendrix

Jimi Hendrix was an amazing guitarist but he was also very attractive. There was a very sexual feel to his stage performances and I remember watching a documentary on him and he was sitting on a bed talking and I was thinking this must have been good for peoples’ healths back then! 🙂 Like many guys on this list he was also very individualistic and that’s a very attractive quality in a person. 🙂

9. Iggy Pop

There was something incredibly sexualised about Iggy Pop’s stage performances. I recently was watching a program called Anarchy In Manchester and his performance of Passenger was just something else! 🙂 Beautiful dark features he had and was very attractive in that whole time of punk.

10. Adam Ant

Adam Ant with eyeliner around his eyes? Oh heaven! 🙂 It just went so well with his dark, amazing eyes. I even used that picture in a fashion project I done in college about Gothic looks. And of course he looked damn beautiful in the project. He was incredible looking and those eyes, wow! 🙂

11. Brian Jones

Rolling Stones’ Brian Jones’ beauty just oozes out of pictures. Fit as hell!

12. David Bowie

With sex appeal to burn David Bowie always looked downright hot!

13. Andrew Ridgeley

I know almost everybody back in the day of Wham! was besotted by George but I think I would have fancied Andrew. He didn’t tend to sing much but he looked absolutely stunning! 🙂

14. Chris Lowe

I used to watch the video to the Pet Shop Boys’ West End Girls when I was younger and I used to kind of think to myself that the little, dark-haired lad at the back was quite handsome. That lad of course was Chris Lowe! 🙂

15.   Yves Saint Laurent

Yves Saint Laurent I first seen in a book on fashion I borrowed from the library and he was just this incredibly handsome man. Long before it was fashionable, Saint Laurent was making geeky chic and he had this lovely personality too. I know he was criticised quite a lot for his shy personality but I thought it was just gorgeous! 🙂

16. David Bailey

Fashion photographer David Bailey more known for his work behind the camera was also pretty damn photogenic himself! With gorgeous deep eyes that looked mysterious and dark hair he was a gorgeous man who could have anyone he wanted. Gorgeous! 🙂

17.Frankie Merlo

Frankie Merlo was and came into the whole arts/culture world when he started dating and subsequently living with writer Tennessee Williams. I mean look at him, he was the epitome of handsome sophistication. Tennessee Williams done very well for himself indeed! Frankie was supposed to be liked by almost everyone who met him and I would have thought he was fantastic too. He seemed a really nice, down-to-earth person and I would have loved to have been besties with him! 🙂

18.   James Dean

What can you add to a comment about James Dean’s beauty which hasn’t already been said?! I think everyone fancied James Dean, didn’t they? And it’s easy to see why. The Rebel Without a Cause star oozed sex appeal and brooding masculinity. He was just incredibly handsome. Each feature just perfect. Those piercing eyes that pierce right through you, full of cool, casual swagger and almost uneffortlessly handsome. Stunning, stunning, stunning! 🙂

19. Montgomery Clift

I read about Montgomery Clift before I ever seen what he looked like in Truman Capote’s biography and he seemed a nice man but quite troubled at the end of his life. He was an amazingly natural actor who starred in movies such as I Confess, Lonelyhearts and Suddenly, Last Summer and he had these incredible eyes which in his roles were so emotive and convincing. Very, very handsome man.

20. Marlon Brando

Marlon Brando oozed that sophisticated, very strong air. Some scenes in Tennessee’s Williams’ A Streetcar Named Desire when he gets all angry are really rather hot and it’s very easy to see why he was such a sex symbol back in the day! 🙂 He had such a fabulously chiseled face with brooding deep eyes and very kissable lips.

21. Errol Flynn

Australian-American actor Errol Flynn was a smouldering, beautiful man with a gorgeous smile. He played Robin Hood and needs to be seen in tights!:-) Other roles this very sexy man was in included Against All Flags, Mara Maru and Montana.

22. Anthony Andrews

I’m a huge Brideshead Revisited fan and Anthony Andrews was this gorgeous blonde hunk! 🙂 He played the role of Sebastian Flyte and while Jeremy Irons who played Charles wasn’t hard on the eye either there is just something about Andrews. Watch him smoking in his role as Sebastian. It’s kind of sexy! 🙂

23. Lord Alfred Douglas

Poet Lord Alfred Douglas was probably more known for been Oscar Wilde’s boyfriend which in a sense was a shame because I’ve read some of his poetry and it’s quite good. Reading about his story with Oscar, you do get the impression that maybe Oscar loved him a bit more than he loved him and when you look at Lord Alfred with those delicate, beautiful features, gorgeous eyes, soft blonde hair you can see how he became so besotted by him. If I was a man back then and Lord Alfred showed a bit of interest then I think I would have been caught hook, line and sinker too to be fair! 🙂

The Best of The Globes Fashion!

I already spoke about this year’s Golden Globes but I never spoke about the fashion element which of course is sideline element to the show but is still rather fun! So I have compiled my fave outfits from the night! So read on …

Zooey Deschanel wearing Oscar de la Renta:

Zooey Deschanel is one of my style crushes. I don’t think she ever gets it wrong really and The Globes were no different!

Zooey Deschanel wowed as always!

Zooey Deschanel wowed as always!

Kerry Washington wearing Balenciaga:

Soon-to-be mum Kerry Washington looked absolutely amazing on the night!

Kerry Washington shining at this year's Globes!

Kerry Washington shining at this year’s Globes!

Zoe Saldana wearing Prabal Gurung

I love quirky style and this dress is amazingly quirky and fabulous!

Zoe Saldana looked fab at the event!

Zoe Saldana looked fab at the event!

Olivia Wilde wearing Gucci

Soon-to-be mum Olivia Wilde went for a stunning emerald gown for the event and didn’t she look just fab?!

Olivia Wilde looked amazing at the event!

Olivia Wilde looked amazing at the event!

Usher wearing Calvin Klein 

I’m a wee bit in love with Usher but that’s not why I included him! He’s always had great style and on the night of The Globes it was no different!

Usher looking dapper on the red carpet!

Usher looking dapper on the red carpet!

Sean “P Diddy” Combs looking snazzy

I don’t know the designer so if you do let me know! But whoever it was, Combs wore it amazingly and gave off a cool, confident air!

Sean "P Diddy" Combs looked cool and amazing at the event!

Sean “P Diddy” Combs looked cool and amazing at the event!

Matthew McConaughey

Matthew McConaughey totally rocked emerald in his  Dolce & Gabbana suit!

Matthew McConaughey looked fab at this year's Globes!

Matthew McConaughey looked fab at this year’s Globes!

Jared Leto wearing Saint Laurent

I am also a bit in love with Jared Leto but like Usher that isn’t why I included him. He looked fab and cool as a cucumber! And I adore Yves Saint Laurent and Saint Laurent!

Jared Leto looking  amazing at the event!

Jared Leto looking amazing at the event!

So what there you all think of the looks on the night? Who was your favourite? Comment below and let me know! 🙂